Vincent "Jim" R. Aceto

February 25, 1933 ~ November 1, 2020 (age 87)


LTC Vincent “Jim” R. Aceto, age 87, passed away on Sunday, November 1, 2020 following complications from a medical procedure with his loving wife by his side in New Salem, PA.

He was born on February 25, 1933 in Everett, MA, to the late Vincenzo James and Anna (Nee’ Trabucco) Aceto. Upon graduation from Northeastern University ROTC he was commissioned as a U.S. Army Officer and served honorably for 22 years, retiring as a Lieutenant Colonel. During his military career, Jim served at Tobyhanna Army Depot in Pennsylvania; Ft. Lewis, Washington; Kaiserslautern, Germany; and Bangkok, Thailand in addition to two tours of duty in Vietnam. Upon retirement he settled in Virginia and was employed for over 20 years by Presearch to support development of ships for the U.S. Navy. Jim was a member of the Arlington/Fairfax Elks Lodge #2188 and St. John the Evangelist Roman Catholic Church in Warrenton, VA.

Jim’s love of the Army was only surpassed by his devotion as a husband, father, grandfather and great-grandfather. He was a loving and gentle man who enjoyed spending time surrounded by his friends and family.

Jim was preceded in death by his first wife Magdalen “Madge” Aceto, sister Georgiana D’Alelio, great-grandson Collin Feeney and his parents. Left to cherish his memory are his second wife Dr. Gerry Grant-Aceto; daughter Deborah (Larry) Aceto-Milton, their sons Jason and Nathon; son H. John (Lennie) Aceto and their children Aja (daughter Kai), Lauren (son Hunter) and Robert; and son Vincent J. “Jimmy” Aceto and his daughter Katie (Patrick) Feeney. Gerry’s children Alfred (Cynthia) Grant, Jr. and Natalie (Gregory) Sharpe; grandchildren Brooke, Nina, Tara, Maria, and Alexa; and great-grandchildren Wyatt, Francesca and Ava Joy mourn his loss.

A funeral mass will be held at St. Andrew the Apostle Catholic Church, 6720 Union Mill Rd., Clifton VA 20124, on Saturday, November 14, 2020 at 1:00 p.m., with entombment to follow at Fairfax Memorial Park, 9900 Braddock Rd., Fairfax VA 22032. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Vincent “Jim” R. Aceto Memorial Fund at St. Jude Research Hospital (

The Kish-Fabry Funeral Home, Inc., Republic, PA has been entrusted with Jim’s professional funeral arrangements in Pennsylvania.

To send flowers to the family or plant a tree in memory of Vincent "Jim" R. Aceto, please visit our floral store.


Funeral Mass
November 14, 2020

1:00 PM
St. Andrew the Apostle Catholic Church (Fairfax Memorial Park, Braddock Rd, Fairfax)

© 2021 Kish Fabry Funeral Home. All Rights Reserved. Funeral Home website by CFS & TA | Terms of Use | Privacy Policy